Backhanded Compliments ~
Backhanded Compliments
Check out this awesome set of backhanded compliments and illustrations from Crappy Pictures, based off of a list of crappy compliments from kids compiled by Divine Secrets of a Domestic Diva! Haha! You can get the complete list of backhanded compliments from kids from Divine Secrets of a Domestic Diva including…
You’re lucky to have a baby bump even though you don’t have a baby in your belly. They’re popular!
Nice! And way classier than the ever popular “When are you due?” when you haven’t been pregnant for like 15 years.
I know that Kanye West is mostly a genius {I don’t care what everybody else says} but I have to admit that he actually made a good point here. Stop ending your compliments with “I don’t care what everybody else says.” It’s no longer a compliment, it’s a backhanded compliment. Or go ahead and keep using it, but make sure you do it to someone who likes to punch you in the throat first and ask questions later. Oh, and make sure you do it somewhere in my line of vision. Thanks.
What Is The Best/Worst Backhanded Compliment You Have Ever Received?
I am fat, so I get the “but you have such a pretty face” crap. Gee…thanks.
One time I was in a coffee house and this little girl came in the bathroom and she was like “Mom, she is really big!” and “She is really ugly” and things like that. Um, I was the ONLY other person in there, so shocker who she was talking about. Then the mom was like “Shhh, it’s what’s on the inside that counts.”
To me, her mom may as well have said, “Yes, she is a nasty pig, but…” Um, how about telling your daughter that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and that what she is saying isn’t very nice.
I can’t imagine where the daughter gets that one track mind from.
And yes, I am sure my “insides” are a lot prettier than some other people’s. 😉
Dawn
You are very sensitive about your weight. I would say over sensitive and obviously realize you have a weight problem. You gave yourself a backsided compliment! The mother saying, “shhhhh, it’s what’s on the inside that counts”, is summing up what you think the mother should have said.
I don’t agree that I am “overly” sensitive about my weight. I just don’t think that when someone has something that others perceive to be a problem that it makes it their automatic right to make judgments about it.
People stutter {including me on occasion}, people have rotten teeth, women have moustaches, etc., etc. Why does one characteristic that is unappealing to some make that total person ugly? If you are fat but have great hair and a killer smile, all of a sudden you are too scary to look at? All you have is what’s on the inside? Personally, I think that we should teach our children better than that.
Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. And just because you {in general} don’t like something, you can never assume that everyone else sees it as ugly, too.
I was told that I could be pretty if I tried. What they did not realize is that when I dressed the way I wanted too, nobody realized I had a brain and I was treated extremely wrong by the men I worked with.
People are stupid. I got told something similar to that one time. “You would be so pretty if you would just take some time for yourself and put on some makeup every morning.”
Um, I am extremely allergic to most makeup so I am not sure exactly how that is taking care of myself, lol.
I told her that she would be so smart if she didn’t speak. 😉
Dawn
Yes, it is much better to be thought of as a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt!
Oh you are so funny. I am not good at thinking up these quips right off the top of my head, but if I think of one I’ll come on back!
Haha! Yeah, I had the convenience of a lot of time to come up with this mess {plus other people’s material to link to}. 🙂
Dawn
I can’t think of any. Just want to say I love your posts. They’re either informative or funny. Usually a bit of each.
Thank you very much. 🙂
Dawn
Ummm…. I can’t even think of one, but I laughed all the way through this post. Love it when people try so hard to be nice. I’d almost rather them just come out and spit out the truth 🙂
For real! A poop covered in honey is still a poop.
Dawn
Laughing out loud at backhanding someone’s face- haha thank yoU!
Haha! No prob!
Dawn
I don’t care what anyone else says, but I think you’re totally right! “I don’t care what anyone else says” definitely ruins the compliment. hahaha.
GREAT POST!! SO funny and true.
Haha! Thanks!
Dawn
LOL! I can’t think of any right now, but you made me laugh!
“You look so different with make-up on.” Ha! It was the **way** she said it :/
Oh gosh! I have heard that. I especially love the *shocked* look.
Dawn
Gosh I can’t remember any now – but I know I’ve gotten plenty! Cute post!
i cant think of anything of the top of my head but i enjoyed your post for a good morning laugh 🙂
Thank you!
Dawn
These are pretty funny but I’m not sure I’d like to be on the receiving end of any of them! 🙂
So funny! I think the worst left handed compliment I get is when working Moms gush about how special a person I am to be an at home Mom, they just don’t know how we all do it! They would be bored to tears! Arrgghh…
Have a great day !
Hahaha! Yeah, that is a good one!!
Dawn
I once wrote a post when my son told me I looked super skinny that day… and then said “except your butt” lol
AH!!! See, to my daughter that would be an AWESOME comment! Lol!
Dawn
These are awesome! Thanks for sharing! I’m going to have to be on the look out for backhanded compliments now.
Hopefully you won’t get too many! Lol!
Dawn
Wow. I can’t think of any that I’ve received. I’ve had my share of ‘fat’ comments from children during and after my pregnancy, though. It’s always interesting. Luckily I’ve learned to not let it get to me. People will always be rude. We can only control how we act.
Haha- oh those backhanded compliments! I love the cartoon with the mustache-LMAO!!! These are spot on and so funny!
You definitely got to love those backhanded compliments. NOT! My sister is the QUEEN of backhanded compliments. I remember once she told me I couldn’t do my hair right (I was only straightening it), so I went in, straightened it and came back out saying, “What do you think?” She told me it looked nice so I said “Hah! I told you I could do my hair,” and she looked me straight in the eye and said, “I said it looked NICE, I didn’t say it was good.” Lol
Love you too sis!
Some people can’t STAND to say something nice…there is always a “but.”
Dawn
Love this idea!
Kids are so good at blurting out inappropriate truths. As a parent I’m sure I was beet red at times over some of the things my children had said.
Haha, thanks for the laugh! Love the mustache one. I’m sure everyone has a “can’t believe my child said this (mustache moment)” but my husband and daughter went to an amish store (I’m from PA) and she was when they got to the counter, my daughter kept saying “why does that lady have a mustache, daddy?” repeatedly. He turned bright red and dashed out of their asap. It was loud enough for everyone to hear!
Bwahahahaha!
This taste’s good – I’m full already, so I can’t finish my plate.
I’m not sure of a backhanded compliment at this time but I loved this post. I needed a laugh today! Thank you for sharing!
Haha! No prob!
Just wanted to say that i love your posts! The worst backhanded compliment I’ve heard was definitely “It’s so… refreshing to meet someone who doesn’t care about how they look.”
WOW! That is horrible!! :O
… and thanks. 🙂
Just read through some of these… wow, there are some mean people out there!
There really are.
Haha such nice examples you’ve got. Quite entertaining and true!
I’m sure I’ve gotten plenty of back-handed compliments, but in reading what others have to say, I would agree with your first statement: Everyone needs to be complimented. So we can all take a lesson from this: laughter is good medicine. So lets laugh off the negative & share words of kindness with one another.
Thank you… I needed that laugh! You know, around here it doesn’t matter what you say to someone, as long as you add “bless your little heart” to the end of it….. no wonder I have such low self esteem 🙂
This is very true. We’ve all received them. The “Your pretty on the inside” comments that make you cringe. My daughter is grown and unmarried she hates the “it’ll happen for you one day.” Even worse is when they add “No offense” and think it is ok to say whatever. Face it, if you have to say no offense, offense is meant to be there.
Thanks for this. I started off the morning with a good laugh. Some people just don’t know how to be quiet and/or phrase things in a polite way.
Growing up, my older sister was the pretty one in the family and I was the weird awkward one. At school, people would say “Wow that’s your sister?! she’s so gorgeous.”You guys don’t look anything alike”…… Years later I did grow out of that awkward phase. I got contacts, started wearing makeup, tweezed the brows, learned how to use a flat iron, etc. I haven’t had any good back handed compliments lately since I’m a bit prettier now but about a year ago my boyfriend told me, “Your so beautiful! If you had bigger boobs you’d be like, the perfect woman!” I let that one slide because he’s usually such a sweet heart, even though he does say dumb things every now and then.
You should have told the boyfriend, “You’re so hot! If you had a bigger brain, you’d be like the perfect man!”
Lol. 🙂