Backhanded Compliments ~
Everyone loves a compliment. Well, most compliments anyway. But what about those compliments that always have a “but” or some other disclaimer on the end. You know what I am talking about. “You are so pretty on the inside.” What the heck? That is not a compliment at all!
Backhanded Compliments
Ah, romance, and those that constantly fish for compliments. As we all know, there are no compliments quite so sincere as those that are softly nagged hinted for.
See, you should have just said that to begin with. Someone who knows what they want and doesn’t mind saying so. I like that quality in a person.
Thanks for that heartwarming {fungal} imagery. To all the girls that were wearing this Sally Hansen brand of nail polish when they ran across this lovely ad, I guess we know what that means. Jokes on you, Sally Hansen.
Check out this awesome set of backhanded compliments and illustrations from Crappy Pictures, based off of a list of crappy compliments from kids compiled by Divine Secrets of a Domestic Diva! Haha! You can get the complete list of backhanded compliments from kids from Divine Secrets of a Domestic Diva including…
You’re lucky to have a baby bump even though you don’t have a baby in your belly. They’re popular!
Nice! And way classier than the ever popular “When are you due?” when you haven’t been pregnant for like 15 years.
I know that Kanye West is mostly a genius {I don’t care what everybody else says} but I have to admit that he actually made a good point here. Stop ending your compliments with “I don’t care what everybody else says.” It’s no longer a compliment, it’s a backhanded compliment. Or go ahead and keep using it, but make sure you do it to someone who likes to punch you in the throat first and ask questions later. Oh, and make sure you do it somewhere in my line of vision. Thanks.
What Is The Best/Worst Backhanded Compliment You Have Ever Received?
About Dawn McAlexander
I am fat, so I get the “but you have such a pretty face” crap. Gee…thanks.
Twitter: thenewclassy
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One time I was in a coffee house and this little girl came in the bathroom and she was like “Mom, she is really big!” and “She is really ugly” and things like that. Um, I was the ONLY other person in there, so shocker who she was talking about. Then the mom was like “Shhh, it’s what’s on the inside that counts.”
To me, her mom may as well have said, “Yes, she is a nasty pig, but…” Um, how about telling your daughter that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and that what she is saying isn’t very nice.
I can’t imagine where the daughter gets that one track mind from.
And yes, I am sure my “insides” are a lot prettier than some other people’s.
Dawn
Twitter: myfrugalwife
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I was told that I could be pretty if I tried. What they did not realize is that when I dressed the way I wanted too, nobody realized I had a brain and I was treated extremely wrong by the men I worked with.
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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People are stupid. I got told something similar to that one time. “You would be so pretty if you would just take some time for yourself and put on some makeup every morning.”
Um, I am extremely allergic to most makeup so I am not sure exactly how that is taking care of myself, lol.
I told her that she would be so smart if she didn’t speak.
Dawn
Twitter: themommybunch
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Oh you are so funny. I am not good at thinking up these quips right off the top of my head, but if I think of one I’ll come on back!
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Haha! Yeah, I had the convenience of a lot of time to come up with this mess {plus other people’s material to link to}.
Dawn
I can’t think of any. Just want to say I love your posts. They’re either informative or funny. Usually a bit of each.
Twitter: thenewclassy
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Thank you very much.
Dawn
Ummm…. I can’t even think of one, but I laughed all the way through this post. Love it when people try so hard to be nice. I’d almost rather them just come out and spit out the truth
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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For real! A poop covered in honey is still a poop.
Dawn
Laughing out loud at backhanding someone’s face- haha thank yoU!
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Haha! No prob!
Dawn
I don’t care what anyone else says, but I think you’re totally right! “I don’t care what anyone else says” definitely ruins the compliment. hahaha.
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Twitter: dapperhouse
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GREAT POST!! SO funny and true.
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Haha! Thanks!
Dawn
LOL! I can’t think of any right now, but you made me laugh!
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“You look so different with make-up on.” Ha! It was the **way** she said it :/
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Oh gosh! I have heard that. I especially love the *shocked* look.
Dawn
Gosh I can’t remember any now – but I know I’ve gotten plenty! Cute post!
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i cant think of anything of the top of my head but i enjoyed your post for a good morning laugh
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Thank you!
Dawn
Twitter: 2Wired2Tired
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These are pretty funny but I’m not sure I’d like to be on the receiving end of any of them!
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Twitter: ismilefirst
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So funny! I think the worst left handed compliment I get is when working Moms gush about how special a person I am to be an at home Mom, they just don’t know how we all do it! They would be bored to tears! Arrgghh…
Have a great day !
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Hahaha! Yeah, that is a good one!!
Dawn
I once wrote a post when my son told me I looked super skinny that day… and then said “except your butt” lol
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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AH!!! See, to my daughter that would be an AWESOME comment! Lol!
Dawn
These are awesome! Thanks for sharing! I’m going to have to be on the look out for backhanded compliments now.
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Hopefully you won’t get too many! Lol!
Dawn
Twitter: CrazyToddlerMom
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Wow. I can’t think of any that I’ve received. I’ve had my share of ‘fat’ comments from children during and after my pregnancy, though. It’s always interesting. Luckily I’ve learned to not let it get to me. People will always be rude. We can only control how we act.
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Haha- oh those backhanded compliments! I love the cartoon with the mustache-LMAO!!! These are spot on and so funny!
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You definitely got to love those backhanded compliments. NOT! My sister is the QUEEN of backhanded compliments. I remember once she told me I couldn’t do my hair right (I was only straightening it), so I went in, straightened it and came back out saying, “What do you think?” She told me it looked nice so I said “Hah! I told you I could do my hair,” and she looked me straight in the eye and said, “I said it looked NICE, I didn’t say it was good.” Lol
Love you too sis!
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Twitter: thenewclassy
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Some people can’t STAND to say something nice…there is always a “but.”
Dawn
Love this idea!
Kids are so good at blurting out inappropriate truths. As a parent I’m sure I was beet red at times over some of the things my children had said.
Haha, thanks for the laugh! Love the mustache one. I’m sure everyone has a “can’t believe my child said this (mustache moment)” but my husband and daughter went to an amish store (I’m from PA) and she was when they got to the counter, my daughter kept saying “why does that lady have a mustache, daddy?” repeatedly. He turned bright red and dashed out of their asap. It was loud enough for everyone to hear!
Twitter: thenewclassy
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Bwahahahaha!