You’ve spent years raising kids, taking care of the household, and making sure that everyone has what they need – now it’s time for you to give yourself what you need. A lot of stay at home moms feel, even though they’re already doing an important job, that they’re missing out by not pursuing a career and they often consider getting back in the game as soon as the kids grow up a bit.
Been a SAHM? Here’s How to Kickstart Your Career Again
It makes sense, though, as a career gives both financial security as well as the freedom your family needs to enjoy life a bit more.
Yet, you might feel that you’ve been out of the game for so long and don’t really know where to start. There are younger candidates, after all, those with more experience, and others that are fresh out of college and hungry to climb that career ladder.
Luckily, it’s absolutely possible to enjoy a prospering career at any age and no matter how long you’ve been out of the game for. You just need to know who to talk to, that’s all, and how to proceed so that you can land your dream job as soon as possible. Here is a handful of ways to get you started with your career after being a stay at home mom; it may be a bit tough but it will definitely be worth it, in the end.
First: Working From Home Or In An Office?
One of the first things you should do is, of course, to think about what you want out of your career. Are you happy to join in on the 9-5 grind, picking up takeaway coffee on your way to work at the break of dawn, sitting through long meetings, and be home to make dinner after eight long hours?
While this isn’t for everyone, a lot of people love their office jobs and wouldn’t choose to work from home over coming into the office at all. It’s about the socialization, after all, the sense of having a separate working life and personal life – and being able to get out of the house a bit as well.
If you haven’t been in the career game for years, you might not even know completely what you want yet. Consider if working from home is a better option for you and keep in mind that it might be the best alternative if you still have kids that are school-age; that way, you won’t have to rush out after work to pick them up and get dinner ready as soon as possible.
Plus, you won’t really get that sense of cabin fever by working from home if you’ve been a stay at home mom for a while now. Just change your environment a bit from time to time, sit at a coffee shop instead of in your kitchen once in a while, and enjoy the freedom instead.
You can have a look at this article if you’d like some more tips on jobs you can do from home or just consider chatting to your prospective employer about flexible working hours so that you can complete some of them from home instead. It’s getting increasingly common, after all, since technology makes it so easy for us to communicate without having to be in the same room.
What Career Do You Have In Mind?
Now that you’ve given your working hours some serious thought, it’s time to think about the type of job you’d like to get started with. It has a lot to say in terms of how to proceed with landing your dream job, after all, and different fields will require a different approach as well.
If you want to get back into the career you started with before you had a family, the first couple of steps you should take are quite simple; reach out to someone you know who has most likely advanced quite a lot by now and ask for a helping hand.
Don’t give up in case this isn’t an option for them, though, and you can’t expect everyone to be helpful if you haven’t been in touch for a couple of years.
They’ll be risking their own careers by sticking their necks out, after all, and it’s always better to ask for help from someone you know quite well already since they can vouch for your excellent work morale and clever mind.
If you’re not quite sure exactly what you’d like to do or if you only have a vague idea, you have a lot of options to choose from – even if you don’t know it yourself. Consider this; Reva Seth, the author of The Mom Shift, talks about how she finally started writing her first book after having children.
It was something she always wanted to do but never got started on until the drive she gained from starting a family kept pushing her forward. After about 40 rejections, she thought about giving up, but stroke a deal at last; “I don’t think I would have pushed on if I didn’t have a baby – but there’s something grounding about it.”
Although you might not be the biggest risk-taker with regards to your own family, it’s easier to take risks and get rejected without watching your world crumble when you’re standing steadily on your own two feet. You’ll pick yourself up again and keep trying.
When you’re not sure about what you want to do further, in other words, you should simply give this whole ‘pursuing your dreams’ a shot. You only get one chance, after all, and there is no better time than the present.
Focus On Networking And Building Skills
Now that you know the type of work schedule you’d prefer and have a better understanding of what you’d want to do with your career, it’s time to have a look at exactly what you can do to make it a reality.
One of the first things you should think about is to give your career chances a slight boost by taking a relevant course in your field or simply complete an online degree such as an online associates degree in criminal justice. This is a great way to get the kind of niche experience and knowledge you need in order to be considered right away and it will definitely give you a massive head start.
High education and an excellent degree will definitely help you out a lot, but nothing can boost your career like those you know. Networking may sound awkward and unnatural but it is, in fact, one of the most natural things about advancing your career; make some new friends, get to know others, and expand your horizon within your field of work.
When you have someone who can vouch for your sense of responsibility and your skills, the employer will be much more likely to call you in for an interview than those who have no direct recommendations.
Plus, it saves him or her a lot of time in terms of working through each candidate – and you’ll have a much better chance at the positions that are only open for applications from within the company.
Getting back out there and starting a brand new job can be a bit frightening but, when you think about it, this will only last for a little while. Before you know it, you’ll have settled in and found your rhythm again – and your kids can look even more up to their kickass career mommy.
What Kind Of Skills Do I Have After Being A SAHM?
One of the scariest moments for most job seekers is, of course, the dreaded interview session. While most of us will be quizzed about our past work experience, it can be especially tricky when you’ve been a stay at home mom for most of your adult life and haven’t really gained any proper experience out in the field.
Luckily, there is a way around this – as well as a few things you should avoid doing. Try not to portray yourself as a mom, first and foremost, when sitting in that job interview. Your potential boss doesn’t want someone who only sees themselves as a mom, they want someone who is passionate about their career; this can be tricky to get through when you haven’t really focused on your career so far.
If you’ve tried a side-hustle while being a stay at home mom, this is definitely something you should bring up. Everyone loves a hustler and especially when they already have a lot on their plate in terms of family life. Focus on how working in this field is your passion as well as all the great skills you’ll bring to the table.
As a mother, you have been the manager of your household, after all, which has given you some great leader skills as well as time management skills. You know how to be a diplomat as well as a leader, you know how to communicate well, and you have the kind of empathy that most people look for in a future leader.
While you certainly don’t have to tie all of this to the fact that you’re a mom during the job interview, it’s just nice to have something to inspire you before you go out there. Focus on yourself and your own skills during the interview and put your family aside for a second if you’d like to land that job.
You’ve been there for them one hundred percent for years already, after all, and it’s definitely time for you to focus on yourself for a bit so that their lives can be even better.
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