How do you know if you’re a good parent? Well, if you’re doing the best by your kids in the best way you know how, that could be considering good parenting. However, there are things that all good parents have in common. Take a look at the pointers below and you should get a good idea of whether you can relate to anything mentioned.
These Are The Things All Good Parents Have In Common
They Don’t Always Listen To Criticisms On Their Parenting Skills
Every single parent does things differently. One parenting style may not be right for another parent, and that’s ok. As long as you are doing what you believe is in the best interests of your child and you feel it’s right for your family, then you can usually rest easy. However, there’s likely always going to be somebody who wants to criticize your parenting skills, whether it’s your partner, a parent in law, a friend, or somebody else. The key is to take these criticisms with a pinch of salt; what they say says a lot more about them than it does about you. Your goal should be to help your child grow up into a well rounded adult, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Providing you are doing things that align with this, you don’t have to worry!
They Understand That Everyday Won’t Be Great
Not every day is going to be a day you want to give yourself a pat on the back. You may have snapped and shouted at your child and regret it later on. You may not have coped well with something your child did. You may just be struggling to stay on top of the housework, or your own work. Whatever it is, it’s ok. Not every day will be great, and it’s crucial to remember that if you start beating yourself up.
They Make Their Kids Do Chores
Your kids should be doing chores as soon as they are old enough and able. You can start them off allowing them to help you with certain chores. You may give them smaller things to do at first, dependent on their age. For example, sweeping the floor. You know that you’d probably do a better job, but that doesn’t mean you should just do it yourself. You want to instill some responsibility into your children and teach them valuable life lessons that will help them in the future. You certainly don’t want to feel you have to bribe them to do it once they are older! Make it a normal part of your life and you won’t have a problem.
They Teach Their Kids Social Skills
Kids who have social skills usually get better grades at school, and end up taking on further education. Teach your kids social skills by setting up playdates.
They Know When Their Family Is Complete
Knowing when your family is complete is important. Again, this is something that will be completely unique and individual to each family. It’s important to remember the signs to look for, such as stretched finances and little time/stamina. That being said, not every sign means you’re done with children. If you’re experiencing fertility problems, that doesn’t mean you have to give up. There are lots of options for this, from choosing an egg donor to adoption, providing you feel it’s right.
They Have High Expectations Of Their Children
Having high expectations of your children isn’t the same as pushing them to the brink and not allowing them a social life. Helicopter parenting can be damaging, but this isn’t the same thing either. If you have high expectations, e.g. you expect your child to go into further education once they have finished school, they will be more likely to do so.
They Have A Healthy Relationship With The Other Parent
Whether you’re still in a relationship with the other parent or not, having a healthy relationship with them is imperative to your child’s health and happiness. Talking about the other parent in a negative way will damage your child, as will arguing in front of them.
They’re Less Stressed
Parenting can be stressful, so learning how to manage your stress is key. Children who had stressed parents were more likely to feel stressed out themselves. Taking care of yourself and reducing your stress levels is one of the best things you can do for your child.
They Value Effort Over Avoiding Failure
You don’t want your child to grow up thinking they can’t fail. This is dangerous, and can stop them from doing things they really want to do through fear of disappointing you. Effort is the most important thing, so praise them for that!
*The previous post is a collaborative piece.